Every parent experiences the world through their senses in a slightly different way. Some of us seek activity and stimulation; others prefer calm, order, and predictability. Understanding your own sensory style helps you recognise what keeps you balanced, and that balance is key to managing the daily demands of parenting.
Below are three sensory styles: Leaves, Tree Bark, and Roots, with practical ways to support your own regulation and well-being.
For the “Leaves” Parent
The Lively Pioneer
You are energetic, spontaneous, and enjoy variety. You feel your best when you are active, social, or creating something new. However, quiet or repetitive routines can leave you feeling flat or restless.
Try these ideas:
- Include movement in your day. Go for a quick walk, stretch, or do something active between tasks.
- Plan stimulation that uplifts. Choose activities that energise rather than overwhelm, such as music, time outdoors, or a short creative project.
- Build small changes into your week. Try a new recipe, rearrange a space, or take a different route to work.
- Balance stimulation with grounding. Deep pressure, slow breathing, or mindful stretching can help your body settle after a busy day.
For the “Tree Bark” Parent
The Steady Protector
You handle a lot before you react. You may appear calm under pressure, but sometimes miss subtle signals from your body, hunger, fatigue, or tension. You need a little extra input to stay alert and engaged.
Try these ideas:
- Use sensory “wake-ups.” Bright light, cool water, or upbeat music can help your system get going in the morning.
- Set gentle reminders. Timers or notes can prompt you to eat, drink, or take short breaks before you run out of energy.
- Choose steady physical activity. Swimming, walking, or gardening keeps your system active without overloading it.
- Stay socially connected. Make time for people who energise you and help you stay engaged.
For the “Roots” Parent
The Careful Nurturer
You value order, calm, and predictability. You notice details and changes others may miss. Busy, noisy environments can quickly feel overwhelming, leaving you drained or irritable.
Try these ideas:
- Create calm spaces. Keep a quiet spot where you can pause and regroup, even for a few minutes.
- Simplify your schedule. Avoid stacking too many activities close together.
- Use sensory comfort tools. Soft fabrics, warm lighting, and soothing scents can help you reset.
- Practise flexible planning. Prepare for the day, but allow space for small changes or surprises.
Why This Matters
Looking after your sensory needs is not indulgent; it’s essential. When you understand what keeps your own system balanced, you’re better able to manage daily challenges with patience and perspective.
Children naturally sense the emotional tone around them. A parent who feels calm and regulated creates a stable foundation for a child to do the same.
Caring for yourself is part of caring for your family. The steadier you feel, the more easily you can guide, comfort, and connect with the small ones who depend on you.
